My First Vlog
Dating coach and day game expert Jeremy Soul stayed at my place for a week. Check out the video I recorded with some cool footage!
Do Caucasian / White Girls Like Asian Guys?
Short answer: Yes.
Long answer: I get this question a lot from my fellow Asian brothers. So I’m going to tackle this question to the bone and be prepared to face some cold hard truth.
Some Caucasian girls will never date an Asian guy. They might have their own reasons for that, like they simply aren’t attracted to Asian guys, religion, family views, etc. Then you will have a group of white girls who will ONLY date Asian guys. They simply love the idea that they are dating an Asian guy and want nothing else. Yes they do exist.
However, majority of Caucasian girls have never dated an Asian guy before. Whenever I’m dating a Caucasian girl, I hear the same phrase a lot: “You’re my first Asian guy.”
You can reflect that group of girls in a bell curve, just like I did in my post where I explained you will not get every girl. I want you read that post first before you continue with this article. It will make you understand this article a lot better.
The idea is that some girls will never date you, but a lot of girls will. Accept this reality. Just look at your own preferences. There are certain types of girls you will never date, but there are also types of girls you will always go for. Then there’s a group of girls you might want to date, but perhaps have never experienced before.
Same idea applies to women on how they view dating guys.
Like for myself, I will never date a African-American girl with a very dark skin tone. I’m simply not attracted to them. On the other hand, I’m very much attracted to Caucasian women. In the middle there’s a huge pool of skin tones and types of girls I would date. For example, I haven’t dated an Indian girl yet but I’m open to the idea.
Now look at the bell curve below to see what I mean.
There’s a small group of women that will never date Asian guys. That’s the red-zone. Whenever you encounter one of those, just move on. There’s no need to waste time.
On the other end is the group of women who’s preferences is to date Asian guys. That’s the green-zone. If you meet one of those, you’re in luck!
The majority of girls is going to be in the middle (gray-zone). These girls might have not dated an Asian guy before, but would be open to do so. This is where you will need to be a little bit better than the average Asian guy to get these girls. In other words, read this blog and learn some Love Systems teachings and you’re already way ahead of the majority.
An interesting side-tangent. You or some other Asian guy should be thanking me if you end up dating the same girl I’ve dated. Why? Simply because once a Caucasian girl has dated an Asian guy before and the relationship was good, she is more likely to date an Asian guy in the future. The first Asian guy for a Caucasian girl will set the precedence of how likely that same Caucasian girl will date another Asian guy.
So if the first Asian guy was starstruck, other Asian brothers are in luck. Otherwise we might have some work left to do. That doesn’t mean that if the first relationship was bad, that the future is all dark and bad. It just means that the next Asian guy will have be a little better than the previous guy.
That’s why when I ask a girl if she has dated an Asian guy before and she says yes, I know that dating her is going to be fairly easy compared to a girl who has never dated an Asian guy before. The guy before me had to go through all the hoops and break down barriers of having her date an Asian guy. That includes family issues, friends, and so on.
Here’s a legitimate hottie, Megan Fox, saying that she would love to date Rain (Asian pop star). She is a prime example of a gray-zone girl. Never dated an Asian, but willing to do so.
If I had to summarize this post, it would be this: Some Caucasian will not ever date an Asian guy. Some girls will only date ONLY Asian guys. Most white girls have not dated an Asian guy before but are willing to date one. They are the majority.
So yes, Caucasian / white girls do like Asian guys.
3 Things I Learned from Jeremy Soul
Day game expert Jeremy Soul stayed at my place for a week. In the midst of his successful US tour I had a chance to pick his brain for a week. As I showed you before in my first vlog being around another like minded person really gives you the chance to pick up new information. In fact I learned a lot from just spending time with him and Jeremy learned things from me. Here are three things I learned from Jeremy.
1. Marketing Jeremy Soul is a marketing genius. No doubt about it. He is one the best marketed person within Love Systems. That is one of the reasons why his day game workshops are always sold out.
A big part of it is also that Jeremy is good at networking. What I learned is that PR is a lot about networking with the right people. During the day I work at the Love Systems office where I am responsible for a lot of the marketing, but I still learned a lot from Jeremy on this area. After reading Crushit by Gary vaynerchuk and spending time with Jeremy I now understand a lot better what personal branding is. Over the course of this year I will be putting all these tips and tricks together to get myself more media exposure.
2. Day Game Even though I’ve been doing day game for a while now, I still learned a lot of things from Jeremy when it comes to day game. He’s the number 1 guy for day game and he is always evolving his own game. It’s a lot of subtle things that I learned, but my biggest breakthrough in day game is that now I’m fairly accurate at predicting which girls in the daytime are going to be receptive for an approach.
I remember about a year ago Soul telling me how he can spot girls that are going to be really easy to approach and close. Honestly, back then I thought he was just being delusional. Fast forward a year later, I now know exactly what he means. Now I can walk down a street and immediately see which girls are going to be easy to talk to with fair accuracy. It’s a weird skill to have.
Part of this is me having done many more daytime approaches over the course of a year, but also being around Jeremy more so I could pick up his subcommunications. A week earlier I had spent some time with him in San Francisco.
3. Social Circle Game Even though Jeremy might be best known for his day game, make no mistake he is also very savvy when it comes to networking, establishing relationships, and meeting the right people. In other words, social circle game.
He and I had long talks about this in our times in the car. Jeremy would give tons of examples of how he used social circle game to enrich his own life. Especially since he moved from London to Stockholm. I also shared some of my views and techniques on meeting the right people and establishing relationships.
He also shared a lot of things I never thought of or have even heard of. There are a lot of social circle game tricks that are not really widespread. The Social Circle Mastery seminar has tons of great material on building and extending social circles, but I even discovered many more tricks that are not covered in the seminar. So Soul and I were sharing a lot of these tips and tricks. I might post about these tips and tricks on this blog in the future.
Conclusion
So these are the things I learned from Jeremy Soul. Not only is the man great at what he is most known for, but he is very much a renaissance man. This year he is also leading Project Rockstar. If you haven’t applied yet, definitely check it out.
New Features on My Blog
As you might have noticed, there are two new things added to my blog. The first is a new logo on top. My friend Mark of Blue Moon Studio designed it for me. Thanks Mark!
The next new thing is the featured content slider on the homepage. Once a while I will change the posts that I want to be featured on the homepage. This is for new visitors (and people somewhat new to my blog) to find more posts by yours truly.
Hope you guys enjoy it!
My First Vlog
Jeremy Soul of Life with Soul stayed at my place for a week. Us two and Pendrixx were leading the Los Angeles Day Game workshop which was a great success. We had 9 students that all did great.
Instead of writing the what happened the whole weekend, I figured doing a vlog is more fun and efficient. At some point later I will write a post what I learned from Jeremy (which is a lot!). Till then, check out the vlog.
A Life of a Dating Coach Currently in San Francisco
I’m writing this blog as Jeremy Soul is sleeping next to me and whim is sleeping in his bedroom. It’s 9am and the day before we finished the Day Game workshop. This weekend I was staying at whim’s place with Jeremy to help out on the Day Game workshop.
Friday night after the office I went to LAX but I was a couple hours early only because I wanted to see the Lakers game. Unfortunately they lost big time and I immediately got a text from a girl (it’s actually the dancer I met at the LA Bootcamp last week, she is from Denver) how I should silence my mouth….ouch ;)
I sit at the gate for my flight to San Francisco. As I tweeted, there were no cute girls on my flight to SF. I truly believe airport terminals are a good representative how hot the girls are in a certain city and the quantity. SF is not really known for having good looking girls and that was reflected on my flight.
I arrive just after midnight, hop in a cab, and crash at whim. A lot of people think that the life of a dating coach is all fun and glory. Braddock wrote a post on a day of a dating coach. Well…it kind of is but it’s also a lot of hard work and sleepless nights. Most people don’t see that side. Not counting sometimes that you have to travel a lot (which is a plus) but you also don’t see your friends and family that much.
For me it’s mostly a lot of work and I’m fully immersed within Love Systems. During the week, I work at the office where I do the marketing. At night during the week, I work on my blog, respond to emails, work on LS related projects (like infield recording, writing, etc). Whenever there is a one-day seminar, bootcamp or Day Game workshop around California, I’m there. So sometimes I’ll be working 24/7 anything related to dating.
I realized that before I got into this. That’s why for me it’s really important to have focus outside of dating to keep myself balanced. Time with friends outside Love Systems and dating is really important to me. I want to be able to go out with my friends who know nothing about dating science. That’s why my social circle is very varied. That’s why it’s also very cool that Love Systems has a wide variety of instructors. We have Caucasian instructors, black (Vercetti), Asian (myself, Mr M, Jeremy Soul), and Hispanic (dahunter). If you ever wanted to work with someone of your own “race”, Love Systems has someone for you.
So yesterday we had a sold out workshop. It was me, Jeremy Soul, and Starlight leading the workshop. Plus we had approach coaches whim plus two guys who flew in from Utah. I see bright a future for these guys and they all did great. It was seriously one of the best day game workshops I’ve been part of so far. By the end of the day you could see everyone had a smile on their face and they walked with a swagger. Daddy is proud.
After the workshop we invited all the students for diner at Osha Thai. The food was seriously good. I also invited one guy I did a phone consultation with who is a venture capitalist. It was great meeting him in person and he had some great ideas how we could grow Love Systems. I was taking notes as I was picking his brain. I can’t wait to work out the ideas and start implementing them.
After diner Starlight, Jeremy Soul, and I all went back to whim’s place to rest up. We wanted to all go out after freshing up a little bit but that didn’t happen. After walking all day long and working with students we were too exhausted to go out.
(me drinking Thai beer)
Instead, we were watching California Pimp videos and trying to break down his game. In case you don’t know who California pimp is….he’s a genius. He’s a guy who films girls when they come over for a calendar shoot….or that’s what these girls think. The (legit) girls really think they are coming for a shoot but CP has different ideas. Of course the girls are really nervous as they are in a stranger’s apartment and he is filming everything. But CP is so pimp that he makes them feel really comfortable and he gets the girls to take their clothes really slowly. Then before you know it….the girl is going down on him.
What’s so fascinating is that his game 100% verbal. He doesn’t physically escalate at all but instead the girls are physically escalating ON HIM. So we all were watching a couple (pr0n) videos of how he does this and trying to break down his game. It’s really eye opening and it’s a totally different style of game. Karea, a well respected member of the Lounge, has a great break down of his game written down. Check it out on the Lounge if you have access.
There you have it. Four guys watching pr0n and studying game. It can’t get anymore efficient than that! After that we just were talking about different things like business, game, life in general and how we are all going Supernova this year. I am especially excited as I see awesome things ahead of me this year.
That brings us back to this Sunday morning. I have to take a shower, head off to SFO, drive to a friend’s place for Super Bowl (will barely make it for kick off!), and cheer for the Colts. Bonsai out.
