Have you ever been to a strip before where almost none of the strippers would come over and talk to you? Or some exotic dancers wouldn’t even notice you were there?
To pick up strippers and exotic dancers you need to sit at the right spot in the strip club. It is really important where you sit down in a strip club. It can make or break your night. Either you will get a lot of approaches from strippers or you will get zero approaches.
If you are not getting many approaches then you are probably sitting in the wrong spot. Stripper game is somewhat of a numbers game and you will not get every stripper. Luckily, you don’t have to. All you need is one that night. To make the most out of your night you want to get as many approaches as possible to see which strippers are open for some adventure. One of the key points to playing stripper game is by getting as many approaches as possible. Generally, in a strip club you sit down and wait for girls to approach you. So how do you get more approaches?
For the readers who are new to learning stripper game: I recently wrote a post on why you want to learn stripper game. Read that to learn why everyone should be learning stripper game and why it is beneficial for your cold approach game.
There are some tips and tricks for getting more approaches from strippers. It’s all about where you sit in a strip club. Location is key. Just like it is for restaurants and street performers. You want to be where there is a lot of traffic.
Sit at high traffic spots
Sit near high traffic areas. This is the most important rule of all of them. If you had to follow one of the guidelines in this post, then this one triumphs. If you can combine the other guidelines too (see below), that would be perfect, but that’s not always possible. High traffic areas are king.
This may seem obvious but a lot of guys still make this mistake. If you are a street performer where would you rather perform: at a busy shopp ing area or in a desert? At a busy shopping area of course because there are more people. You apply the same principle for getting more approaches from strippers. Sit where there are a lot of strippers walking around.
High traffic spots include, in no particular order, near the girls bathrooms, near where strippers change their clothes, and near the bar. Exotic dancers will always be walking around those areas and you are immediately in their vision.
From my experience, the location near the stage entrance is not great. Even though a lot of girls walk around there, most of the time girls just go there to go on stage.
A good rule is to never sit down at the tipping rail. It’s the location at the stage where you sit down, see the exotic dancer dancing from up-close and you tip her money. Strippers call it “pervert row” and they usually don’t date the guys who sit there. So do not sit there. Here’s a map of where pervert row is.
There is an unwritten rule by strippers that they can’t steal the customers from other girls. So strippers will not approach you when you are sitting at pervert’s row and when there is a girl dancing on stage. Exotic dancers will approach you at the tipping rail when there is no girl dancing on stage, but even then it’s still rare that they do approach guys at the tipping rail.
You also don’t want to sit all the way in the back of the strip club. If girls need to walk far to get to you, they might not bother. Especially when there are a lot of other guys between the stage and where you are seated. If it is a dead night at the strip club (not many customers), then you can get away with sitting far away and is actually ideal.
Also, try to sit somewhere where it is dark. You want to be out of the view of the DJ (stripper might be dating or sleeping with him) and security staff (so it doesn’t feel like there is a big brother watching) when they are walking around. Stay out of their view as much as you can. That way you’ll have an environment which gives off an intimate feeling (which is great for comfort building and pacing the interaction), but more importantly it’s easier to get the phone number of the stripper.
Make it easy for strippers to approach you
Make sure you are sitting at a location where strippers can approach you from behind. Believe it or not, a lot of these exotic dancers have a bit of anxiety approaching guys. So to make it easy for themselves, they like to approach guys from behind. That is why you want to sit somewhere where there are no objects blocking your back so strippers can approach you from behind. So avoid sitting against a wall and having chairs blocking your back. It’s good if you are seated where you back is on a path where a lot of exotic dancers are walking.
Don’t have too many chairs around you either. All you need is one for the exotic dancer to sit next to you. If you have a bunch of chairs in front of you, you just make it harder for girls to approach you. It really makes a big difference. Do not make strippers go through a gauntlet and maze of chairs.
As soon as you sit down, make sure you have other one or two chairs around you. Make it easy for strippers to sit next to you so you can game them. Try to avoid having them sit on your lap because it shows too much interest right away and you are playing their game. You can disqualify yourself by saying you want them to sit next to you and it is easier to take control of interaction right then.
Advanced guys can get away with having strippers sit on their lap and gaming them, but for beginners it is not recommended.
I am going to a strip club for the first time. How do I find the best spots to sit down?
Whenever I go to a strip club for the first time I know that I will have to observe the venue first before I know where the hot spots are.
Here is a simple checklist to ask yourself to find out where you want to sit:
- 1. Where is the changing room?
- 2. Where is the stripper’s bathroom?
- 3. Where is the bar?
- 4. Is this a dead night or good night?
- 5. Where are the speakers?
All these questions affect where I am going to sit down. The first three are more logistical to figure out where the high traffic areas are. The fourth determines if I can sit somewhere secluded or not. On dead nights I want to sit somewhere dark and far away from the stage, but on busy nights I would sit where all strippers can see me and walk past me. The last one is more for convenience. If it’s loud and busy, I would just have to work with the loud music. However, if it’s dead but loud, I’ll do my best to find a spot that is the most quiet.
This is my general strategy when I enter a strip club I’ve never been before to find out where to best seats are. As soon as I walk in, I go to the bar and order a drink. This buys me time so I can go through that checklist and see where I want to sit down. As soon as the bartender is making my drink, I ask where the bathroom is and then go there. This buys me extra time and when I get back to the bar, I have usually walked around the venue to get a feel for the sound levels (you want to sit where it’s not too loud). By the time I get my drink I know where I want to sit down. Basically, in the beginning you want to buy yourself some time to scan the venue.
Strippers are very observant. As soon you step in the strip club, they watch your every move like a hawk. So when you try to look for a spot, try to make it seem natural by doing the steps I explained above. Do not walk in, stand there for a few minutes and looking for a place to sit down. That just looks weird and you give off the wrong impression. that you are uncomfortable
Again, I cannot stress enough how important it is where you sit down. It can make the difference between getting zero and ten approaches. In the Strippers and Hired Guns seminar by Braddock and The Don this is thoroughly discussed. Aside from that, you will get more material and information that is not publicly known to pickup strippers. Check it out sometime if you want to learn how to pickup strippers. Or just keep reading my blog :)
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