Stripper Game Routine – Fractured Sexual Identity

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I will be revealing a secret stripper routine that I recently came up with and have used with success on strippers to build attraction and an emotional connection. Normally this routine is only taught at the Strippers and Hired Guns seminar and kept away from everyone else. The routine was later on introduced on The Lounge (an invite-only forum for advanced guys) but now I am releasing it to the general public. At the bottom of this post you can hear me deliver the routine as I would deliver it to a stripper and exotic dancer.

I call the routine “fractured sexual identity” and it is a deep cold read that makes the stripper feel more connected to you on a sexual level. The cold read is originally from Sinn but I’ve expanded on it to make it a full routine and it gives you a couple minutes of conversation. It also gives you a lot of threads that you can tangent off from and depending where you are in interaction with the stripper, you can choose whether you want to show either more stripper preselection, go very sexual, or talk about other related topics to build an emotional connection.

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Here is a common transcript when I run this routine on strippers and exotic dancers.

You: You know what, from just talking to you I can sense something about you that most people probably don’t see. I bet a lot of people think you’re a really confident person because you’re hot and funny, but in reality you’re not. I can tell that you have this fractured sexual identity.
Her: What? / What does that mean? (common response)
You: You are not sure what kind of guy you like. On one hand, you want a guy who is very caring, nurturing, and sensuous to you. But on the other hand, you just want be fucked like a dirty slut.
Her: That is so true! / (or they laugh)
You: Most guys you meet are either one of them. They are either super nice to you and are push-overs, or they are complete assholes to you. In reality you want someone who has both qualities and is kind of in the middle. He can be nice and sweet to you but you also want someone who doesn’t take your shit and can tell you to shut up once a while.

By running this routine you come off as someone who is very intuitive and you create some attraction and comfort. There are a lot of threads open that you can go into and what is so great about this routine is that you can calibrate where you are in the interaction with the stripper. Here are the most common responses and threads.

She is not believing you. I’ve had this once and it was the first time me field testing this stripper routine. Your delivery must be off when she is not believing you. You have this say with a straight face and talk with a tone like a scientist talks about the weather. Whenever she laughs at some of the remarks, do not respond to that with laughter. It’s really important not to react or smile to that because then the cold read loses its power.

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She gets hooked deeper. The most common response is something in along lines of “Wow how did you know that?!” If she says that, I usually know that it’s not really “on” yet but she is getting more attracted. Plus, you know she is hooked even more and she wants to know more about what you can tell her. They will usually ask you what else you can tell about them. Don’t fall for this trap. Instead, it’s a great opportunity to ease that deep cold read with a tease (it’s like a built-in push-pull). My usually response to tell that is “I normally charge for that [wink]” and then transition into another conversational thread. At this early stage I know I still have work ahead of me and I usually transition where I show more stripper preselection, e.g. I talk about how most stripper boyfriends can’t handle their lifestyle or how nowadays guys are emasculated.

She tells you how she likes to have sex. This is a green light. This is a common response when you run this routine very late in the interaction. From my experience, I get this type of response after at least talking to her for half an hour, but more so after like 45 or 60 minutes in. Now you can go very sexual and escalate on the touching to sexual. I usually inquire how the girls likes to have sex and I share my preferences. The touching escalates to more sexual peppered with some takeaways. You want to be careful that you don’t go to sexual, leave that for in the seduction location, e.g. the bedroom.

SIDENOTE: Going very sexual with strippers is not recommended early on in the interaction. That’s the stripper’s power and you don’t want to play that game yet. However, later on when she is really attracted to you and she doesn’t see you as customer but as someone she would date, that’s when you can introduce sexual framing.

It’s fine to just run the transcript from above and then transition into a complete another conversational thread. I like to use the routine to setup the threads that I can later explore deeper with her. In a way you’re setting yourself for multiple threading which is an advanced technique for building rapport.

As a bonus, you can hear me deliver the routine as I would use it on a stripper. Enjoy.

Stripper Game Routine – Fractured Sexual Identity delivery (650 kb)

Give this stripper routine a try and let me know how it works out for you by leaving a comment. If you want to learn more stripper routines, subscribe to my blog or attend one of the Strippers and Hired Guns seminars. In there, I, The Don, and Braddock teach many more routines to build attraction, comfort and how to pick up strippers and exotic dancers.

Related posts:
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  2. 5 Reasons Why You Want to Learn How to Pick up a Stripper to Improve Your Game
  3. 3 Deep Cold Reads You Can Use Today to Build an Emotional Connection with Women
  4. How to Pick Up a Stripper
  5. 6 Signs Strippers are Really Interested in You
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  • Powers

    Hi Bonsai, I wanted to let you know that I'm really enjoying your blog. It's now my second-favorite pickup blog after Roissy's. Please keep sharing and I hope to do a one-on-one with you one of these days.

  • Powers

    Hi Bonsai, I wanted to let you know that I’m really enjoying your blog. It’s now my second-favorite pickup blog after Roissy’s. Please keep sharing and I hope to do a one-on-one with you one of these days.

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Thanks Powers! This is just the start. Over the next couple of months I will be releasing a lot of cool stuff. Keep an eye out for it.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  • Smoky

    Just want to say I threw this line, word for word, on the phone with a girl i've known for a while thats bi and loves girls. She responded exactly as you said she would and asked why, i read it back to her, and she started telling me how she likes to have sex…. i mean this caught me off guard cause i'm a noob and i stuttered “you like it how i like it”… but she giggled…
    major props, your a genius

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Haha awesome Smoky. Glad it worked for you. Did you try it on more girls? It works fairly well for party girls too and very “liberal” girls. You should try it on strippers some time, it's like a bomb.

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Haha awesome Smoky. Glad it worked for you. Did you try it on more girls? It works fairly well for party girls too and very “liberal” girls. You should try it on strippers some time, it's like a bomb.

  • stinkybone

    This is fabulous work! I'm barely getting back into the dating scene & these are the type of girls that I want to be attracting. I have subscribed to your blog and plan on learning as much as possible from the style that you bring to the table, Bonsai!

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Welcome back in the game :) Thanks for subscribing and don't be afraid to leave more comments behind. I always respond to them!

  • Jrod

    I'm just curious. What happens when you fail with this routine, or any other “going sexual” routine. Do you try and salvage the pick-up, or do you just move on?

    More broadly, are you at all concerned that if you fail with a “going sexual” routine you can look like a douche bag or just a total jerk and then the chick will tell her friends about you which could result in you having a more negative value?

    This is a serious issue that I always contend with when I'm hitting on girls, i get really concerned about looking like an asshole if my routine doesnt work with that one particular chick im focused on.

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Honestly, you shouldn't be worried about it. If it fails and the girl gets turned off, you can always go meet another girl. The more you want one girl, the more likely you won't get her.

    You have a scarcity mindset and you want to come to a place of abundance. When you think in abundance, you don't care too much about the outcome. You know you can get any other girl than the one you are talking to right now.

    How do you get there? The fastest route is to gain positive experiences with women and dating more and more women. So if it doesn't work out, just soldier on.

    Remember, you are learning this because you want to improve your OWN success. It doesn't matter what others think. Be selfish to a certain extent. Don't care if the girl thinks you are a creep or asshole, you know who you are and what you stand for. Read this post: http://www.asiandatingcoach.com/2009/12/inner-c...

  • Jrod

    Thanks. And I agree and definitely operate on this mentality when I'm out of town, and am quite successful when I do that. But I have lived in the same city now for my whole life (im almost 25) and with no exaggeration, I have never met a girl out at a bar or club or wherever that didnt at least know at least 3 people I knew. So i'm not really concerned about one particular female's thoughts on my game – im more concerned about them reacting negatively and developing a reputation. Maybe thats silly. But all things being equal, i am total agreement with you about thinking in abundance.

    thanks for the quick reply and sorry for my late response.

  • http://www.asiandatingcoach.com Bonsai

    Ahhh I see. If you live in a small city you want to go the social circle route. Building networks of friends and meeting girls that way.

    If you live in a big city, then don't worry too much. The chance of running into the same girl is really small.

  • ivy

    i think this is a dumb site you cant pick up strippers like the way hes telling you most of us are gay and if a stripper does go home with you then you must have a lot of money cuzz you just got played out your wallet now your wanting to take her home hmmm despret much? anyway if you really want a stripper be real with her dont make this man rich cuzz you have no game …whats the damnpoint of wanting a stripper anyway its just a job …it dont change who we are as a person or the fact that we have kids and a family

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