Never Reject the First Invite for Social Circle Game

Posted at January 1, 2010

Another post on Game 2.0: social circle game. If you are not playing social circle game, then immediately read my post why you should learn social circle game!

I’m going to give you one tip for expanding your social circles. If you follow this rule, building a new social circle and joining new social circles will be MUCH easier and it will happen faster. It’s also easy to follow and easy to implement:

Whenever you get invited by someone for the first time, GO no matter what.

Write this down. I can’t stress enough how important this is.

Whenever someones invites you to come out, GO. Go no matter what. This is really important if you want to expand your social circles.

I’ve noticed that when someone invites you for the first time to some event and you don’t go, it’s very hard to meet up with that person again. You don’t always get a second chance. Especially when you don’t see that person much. In that case you are still stuck in the “sticky phase” (taught in Social Circle Mastery). In other words, you two are still somewhat strangers.

It is much easier to go on your first invite and then meetup with that person (who invited you) again in the future. You can go the first time, flake some other time, and then still meet up again with that person (especially if you have his/her phone number).

That person will appreciate it if you come out the first time. It strengthens your bond with him/her because you gain time and shared experiences which are valuable currencies in social circle game.

So go! Even if you can only stop by for 15 minutes. It is better than not showing up or rejecting the invite.

Braddock also wrote a cool post on golden rule for building a new social circle: respect first, popularity second.

Now you have two great nuggets. Put them to use and it will change your social life for the better.

Social Circle Game

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  • http://twitter.com/Odin_411 odin_411

    You totally nailed this one! I met a girl two weeks ago while hiking and I ask for her number. Last week she invites me to her bday party and I didn’t feel like going because I was being antisocial that day. The night of her party she txt me asking me ” r u coming”, and I remebered this blog and what it said about never to turn down the first invite so txt her back saying “yeah,on my way.” Boom! I was commited. I get there and she introduced me to one of her girl friends so I hung out with her for a bit. It turns out she lives in the next town over from me. At the end of the night, I give her girl friend a hug good bye and as I’m walking away she says “hey, i should get your number since we live near each other. Maybe we can hit up happy hour sometime.” So I give her my number thinking, if we ever talk again it’s going to be me making the first move as usual. On tuesday she txt me asking me to come out with her and her friends (different set of friends then the party we met at) this friday. I’m now hanging out with a friend of a friend. So now I’m looking back and thinking none of this would have happen had I turned down the initial invite from this girl I randomly met. Good advice Bonsai!!