Do Caucasian / White Girls Like Asian Guys?
Short answer: Yes.
Long answer: I get this question a lot from my fellow Asian brothers. So I’m going to tackle this question to the bone and be prepared to face some cold hard truth.
Some Caucasian girls will never date an Asian guy. They might have their own reasons for that, like they simply aren’t attracted to Asian guys, religion, family views, etc. Then you will have a group of white girls who will ONLY date Asian guys. They simply love the idea that they are dating an Asian guy and want nothing else. Yes they do exist.
However, majority of Caucasian girls have never dated an Asian guy before. Whenever I’m dating a Caucasian girl, I hear the same phrase a lot: “You’re my first Asian guy.”
You can reflect that group of girls in a bell curve, just like I did in my post where I explained you will not get every girl. I want you read that post first before you continue with this article. It will make you understand this article a lot better.
The idea is that some girls will never date you, but a lot of girls will. Accept this reality. Just look at your own preferences. There are certain types of girls you will never date, but there are also types of girls you will always go for. Then there’s a group of girls you might want to date, but perhaps have never experienced before.
Same idea applies to women on how they view dating guys.
Like for myself, I will never date a African-American girl with a very dark skin tone. I’m simply not attracted to them. On the other hand, I’m very much attracted to Caucasian women. In the middle there’s a huge pool of skin tones and types of girls I would date. For example, I haven’t dated an Indian girl yet but I’m open to the idea.
Now look at the bell curve below to see what I mean.
There’s a small group of women that will never date Asian guys. That’s the red-zone. Whenever you encounter one of those, just move on. There’s no need to waste time.
On the other end is the group of women who’s preferences is to date Asian guys. That’s the green-zone. If you meet one of those, you’re in luck!
The majority of girls is going to be in the middle (gray-zone). These girls might have not dated an Asian guy before, but would be open to do so. This is where you will need to be a little bit better than the average Asian guy to get these girls. In other words, read this blog and learn some Love Systems teachings and you’re already way ahead of the majority.
An interesting side-tangent. You or some other Asian guy should be thanking me if you end up dating the same girl I’ve dated. Why? Simply because once a Caucasian girl has dated an Asian guy before and the relationship was good, she is more likely to date an Asian guy in the future. The first Asian guy for a Caucasian girl will set the precedence of how likely that same Caucasian girl will date another Asian guy.
So if the first Asian guy was starstruck, other Asian brothers are in luck. Otherwise we might have some work left to do. That doesn’t mean that if the first relationship was bad, that the future is all dark and bad. It just means that the next Asian guy will have be a little better than the previous guy.
That’s why when I ask a girl if she has dated an Asian guy before and she says yes, I know that dating her is going to be fairly easy compared to a girl who has never dated an Asian guy before. The guy before me had to go through all the hoops and break down barriers of having her date an Asian guy. That includes family issues, friends, and so on.
Here’s a legitimate hottie, Megan Fox, saying that she would love to date Rain (Asian pop star). She is a prime example of a gray-zone girl. Never dated an Asian, but willing to do so.
If I had to summarize this post, it would be this: Some Caucasian will not ever date an Asian guy. Some girls will only date ONLY Asian guys. Most white girls have not dated an Asian guy before but are willing to date one. They are the majority.
So yes, Caucasian / white girls do like Asian guys.
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Very interesting post. Thanks.
Thanks for reading!
So if Rain had said yes… one of us would be dating Megan Fox right now, right? =)
Me yes, you no.
:)
I am a short asian guy. I have had terrible trouble with white women all my life and I was born here. I have read Magic Bullets and the part on evolution and mating scares me. If women will always pick the healthiest and most robust male to procreate, then why would they go with a guy like me? Would they not go with a 6ft white guy? If that is true in that book then I really do not have a chance. What's in it for them? Its a two way street. That book really confuses me. What is your take?
I was wondering if you can answer me on this. What is your take on the evolutionary thing of white guy vs. asian guy in Magic Bullets? I am really confused on it.
Hi JeongSoo,
What is stated in Magic Bullets is true; women will always go for the healthy and powerful male if possible. Does that mean every male that is not healthy and not powerful does not get girls? Of course not.
You have to remember that you do not have to hit ALL attraction switches to attract women. For some women, all you need to demonstrate is some preselection and humor to get her attracted to you. For others, they might just like healthy looking guys. And so on.
Figure out what your strengths are and show case them. We all have attractive qualities and with having “game” you can showcase them.
Also, I can sense you have a low self-esteem. You should read this post:
http://www.asiandatingcoach.com/2009/12/inner-c...
No, not really in the self esteem thing. I am educated and have had Asian girlfriends before but white women are really elusive. My esteem is pretty good actually. Why would it be my self esteem? Cannot it not be just that I have questions? If a woman wants the best DNA, then she is going to go with a bigger healthier male. Humor does not convey good DNA. Is the writer of Magic Bullets a scientist? Does he have data to back this up? Where would anyone get that? I am more confused than before. It sounds like to me that this book is not really either accurate or none of us really has a chance. Does it not? Please let me know.
If you can get Asian girls, why wouldn't you be able to get Caucasian girls? Girls are girls. Sure there are some cultural differences, but race has very little to do with it. You're over analyzing things a bit too much.
Evolutionary psychology states that people will always mate with healthier people of the opposite sex to increase chances of reproduction. I think we can both agree on that. Now, that does not mean that every girl will ALWAYS go for the “healthier” male. A lot of factors come into play like, her self-esteem (does she think she can get that guy), logistical problems (the chance of hooking up does not occur), having an emotional connection (sometimes she can't have it with the “better male”), investment levels on both partners, and so on.
A guy with same level of game but with better looks will out-game me. No doubt. Does that mean there are no girls left for me? There are tons of girls out there! I'm not worrying about that. If you have really good game, and I mean REALLY good like LS instructors, you will out-game the majority of guys. But there are still guys who might have the same level of game and better looks / more money, that will outgame me because of that. That's just the way the world works. I didn't make the world, I just live in it.
To sum up, there are too many women out there to worry about other men competing with you. Just focus on your own progress with women and you won't have to think about if other “healthier” men will have to compete with you. Even when you're learning game.
@BONSAI
how about middle eastener guys
The same idea applies to any other race. Some girls won't date middle eastern guys, some only, some are open. This is pretty much an universal concept in the dating context. Don't worry man, you're fine :)
I am another guy similar to some of the posts on here. This is really confusing. Your company says right on its front page that it is “based on social dynamics and female psychology, not looks or money.” You just said looks will beat you if the game is better looking. If that is true, then looks do not matter but yet they do. What? So “game” should trump looks but yet looks and height that bigger white guys can provide seem to win most of time from what I see. Is not Mystery like 6'7 or something and your leader tall too? I dont know what to say. This is really confusing.
Dude, excellent post. Your bell curve says it all very elegantly. Keep up the good work!
Thanks David. I'm a fan of your work too.
Thanks for the reply!
Excellent blog!
It helped a lot!
keep up the good work man!
Hey bro,
We're not cavemen anymore! Man is a social animal, in fact, it's part of what makes us so unique. Being tall, strong and athletic is great, but if you're anti-social and can't get along with people, then what good is it?
This alpha male thing is completely over rated. There really isn't such a thing as an alpha male. You could say there are dominant males and it doesn't all come down to size or strenght.
In fact, all great playboys trough time have not been strong or particularly handsome. Instead they have been great conversationalists with the ability to create strong emotions in women.