Social Proof and Social Circle Game

I’ve been working on my social circle game for the last couple months. One of the reasons I got into exclusive parties was because of social circle game. My goal is to always keep expanding my social circle and meeting people that I can bring value to and they can bring value to me. One of the great things I like about social circle game is that you can work multiple girls at the same time. I will explain that here in depth.

First I want you to understand how a social circle works. Imagine a social circle as a pyramid. See image below.

Every social circle has the “top dogs.” These are the guys that are the most popular (oftentimes also most outgoing or wealthy) and the women are the most attractive. That’s where you want to be and most of the time, women in the green area will only date the men in the green area.

There is also a bottom where these people are exactly the opposite of the top dogs. Not popular, most of them don’t know the top dogs very well, or are new to the social circle. This is not where you want to be.

Whenever you enter a new social circle, it would be best if you come in right in through the top. Majority of time, that is not going to happen. Most likely you will get somewhere in the middle or you get in at the bottom. That’s fine because you can always work your way up to the top. That might take awhile, but it is possible. (On a related note, always accept the first invite whenever you want to get into a social circle.)

The basic idea is, you always want to get as high in the social circle as possible. The higher you are, the more women will be attracted to you and the more women you will date in that social circle. Now that doesn’t mean you need to get to the green area of every social circle. There could be tons of beautiful women who are not the top dogs. That’s great as long you are higher up in the social circle than they are.

One of the attraction switches in Magic Bullets is status. Status in a social circle means that you are up high in the social circle. Or at least, she perceives you as higher up in the social circle than herself. That’s the basics of attraction: she perceives you as higher value than herself.

Now that you understand the basics of social circles, another concept I want you to understand is social proof. In short, if a group of people think you are awesome, others will assume you are awesome. I had a pickup where I explained how you can use social proof in day game to meet women. I suggest you read that first before you continue with the rest of the post.

You are also probably familiar with social proofing a venue. If not, read this post by Dubbsy, fellow Love Systems dating coach, on social proof as part of one-night stands. With social proof you can get a lot of women attracted to you. However, it gets limited to just one girl if you go for one-night stands. Even though you have all these women in the venue attracted to you, at the end of the night there is only one girl you can take home.

It works differently if that night you go for setting up dates. Since you have all that social proof built up and girls are attracted to you, you can just setup dates with a lot of girls. If you’re smart, you do that and then take one girl home that night. Win-win! You have setup a lot of dates and took a girl home. But that’s another worthy post.

Back to the point of this post. When you have social proofed a venue, then the venue is like a mini social circle where you are on top of of the social circle. However, at the end of the night that social circle disappears and so does your value.

You can apply the same idea of social proofing a venue to social circles where you work multiple women at the same time except that you can lock-in your value. Like I said earlier, with social proof in venues you will eventually lose all that value. However, in social circles, value gains are locked in because you will most likely see that person again. So if a girl in a social circle first meets you, she sees that you’re awesome because you have social proof, and then when you guys part ways, she will still think you’re awesome next time you guys see each other again.

That’s the great thing about social circles. You can slowly build your value over time and lock it in. So let’s say you come in at the bottom, you can work your way to the top like the diagram below shows.

Let’s say when you entered a social circle, you came in at the yellow bar. That means that all the women below that yellow bar, will be attracted to you (in simple terms). You can date these women. However, remember what I said earlier: the higher you are in the social circle, the more and hotter women will get attracted to you.

A couple months go by and you have befriended everyone in that social circle. As you get more well known and popular in the social circle, you climb up in that social circle. Now you might be at the purple bar. As you go up, more women will get attracted to you. Now you can date the women who are in the purple area AND the yellow area.

Now this is the main point of this post. As you build your value up in a social circle, all these women who find out about you will become attracted to you. With social circle game you can work multiple women at the same time. When you work on one or two girls as part of building social proof, other girls will eventually find out about you. So the effects of social proof is magnified and spread around like malaria in Africa. By just working on one person and with its positive perception it will be echoed to tons of people in the social circle.

Let’s say you are at the bottom of the social circle. At one party, people see you flirting with one of the top dog girls and she is all over you. Guess what? That’s going to have (massive) effect on all the other girls in the social circle.

Social proof in social circle is so much more powerful than in cold approach. That’s one of the reason I love social circle game. If you put in the effort and have patience, at some point you will date A LOT of women without much effort. The work in the beginning is hard but it will pay off once you become established in a social circle, because then you can pick the women YOU want to date.

I’m sure you still have questions left, like “how do I build social proof in a social circle”, “how do I enter the top of a social circle”, and so on. These are all gems taught at the Social Circle Mastery seminar (DVD is coming out this summer) that Braddock and Mr M came up with.

Definitely check out this video of Braddock where he talks about “buzz” (essentially social proof in social circle). He gives some tips and tricks there.

For more of his college game videos (that apply to social circle game too), check out the college game thread on TAF. He gives away a lot of tips there that will help you with your social circle game!

The point is, with social circle game you don’t have to worry about one girl. You can game multiple girls at the same time and reap the benefits later on.

Social Proof and Social Circle Game is a post from Thanh Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

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