Common mistake: The Kiss of Death

Posted at January 11, 2011

There is one mistake I see guys (who try to master Love Systems) make all the time. It’s a common mistake for beginners and it’s what I call the Kiss of Death. The Kiss of Death is when you try to kiss the girl while her friends are around.

If you try to kiss the girl when her friends are around, you will get rejected MOST of the time. Even if she likes you a lot, most of the time she will still reject you. Especi ally girls who are part of a big group. The reason is that women do not want to be perceived as “too easy” or “slutty.” Kissing in front of friends makes them look like that.

From my experience, you can sometimes get away with it with girls who come in pairs (2-sets). Even then, your best move still to isolate and then try to kiss when the friend isn’t around.

Now, do not think that when you have the kiss of death happen to you that the interaction is over. A lot of guys think that if the girl rejects you when you try to initiate the kiss, it’s game over. It’s actually the opposite. It shows you have cojones (balls if you like) and go for things you want, which are attractive. The exception is when she rejects you hard like “WTF ARE YOU DOING YOU DIRTY HAMSTER?” but then it’s not the kiss of death that killed it, the setup was wrong! When you get something like that, she was just friendly and not attracted. The fix? Work on your attraction game and make sure you’re physically escalating up to the kiss.

Whenever you initiate the kiss, unknowingly in front of her friends or not, and she resists, simply smile and say “I understand your friends are here” (credit The Don), act like it was no big deal, and start talking about something else. Later on try again (make sure her friends aren’t around) and then try again. You’ll see the kiss of death is a thing of the past then.

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  • Eltintero

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  • Miami PUA

    An idle mind is the devils workshop, so if your conversation with the target is the most entertaining thing going on, and you’re not keeping both girls entertained, than there’s problems because your target is going to be different with you than with her friends.

    It’s like when you’re singing in the shower, then you notice someone looking at you sing. When someone is looking, you usually feel defensive and paranoid.

    But if you can seduce each one of them, in their own individual way, than you’re going to win big.

    I hang out at this Starbucks… I literally stay far away from all the girls who work there because their vibe seems gossipy.

    I have hit on 3 women in the last month I’ve been going to this Starbucks. (Frankly, it’s like mixing business with pleasure, muy no bueno) but whenever I am god-inspired to hit on a woman, she’s usually just mind-blowingly beautiful… One-in-a-million… Not just cause she’s a hired gun or something, just because she’s my type.

    There’s a certain type of girl that drives me nuts.

    I talk to the first one… Her antenna’s peaking, she loves me, she’s my new fan.

    Girl number 2 would make Meadow from the Soprano’s look like a wilted flower.

    Girl 3 was drop dead sexy. Like instant ejaculation.

    I had to say something, that was serious prime ass, but the girls started heckling me, acting loud, obnoxious, acting like I say the same thing to every girl, etc.

    I told her “God, I hate it when girls heckle me when I’m talking to a beautiful girl” and then took the conversation from there.

    It’s the same principal, damage control… working the situation where it’s a polite SLR-infused conversation.

    It’s all about occupation, inoculation and isolation, am I right?

    Sincerely,
    Miami PUA of sashagrey.co
    CEO of Elite Seduction Labs

  • AdulatdatingtalkCom

    You must wait the girl to initiate the kiss so that you will not rejected and avoid the kiss of death, but sometime you cant prevent you feelings and you may do the kiss of death, i was experience that moment..

    • Jenna

      I disagree, it’s very sexy and attractive for a guy to get close, lean in and initiate a kiss, or to be taken totally by surprise and pulled close for one.