A lot of guys have made new years resolutions to improve their game and have more women in their lives. We are now in February so I’m wondering how that is working out for you. Most people lose sight of their goals after that new year high, which is a shame. So I’m blogging here to see if you are still working on your game. I’ve compiled 6 questions for you to diagnose yourself.
This is something I do every year to improve my game. Every December I always try to look back over the year and see what I did well and what I can improve. My annual review is really important because that’s what I use to set goals for the upcoming year. Especially when I was trying to learn Love Systems (before I became an instructor), I made leaps in my game by making sure that every year I reflect back on how my game has progressed. There are a couple questions I asked myself that made me reflect how good (or bad) my dating life was that year.
Even though we are way past the new year, this is still very valuable going forward. I want to share these questions with you, specifically applied to your dating life. I highly recommend you try to answer these for yourself and be honest.
1. On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied were you with your dating life in 2010?
This gives you a quick snapshot how great your dating life is and can be very telling.
2. Why did you score that way?
Why did you give yourself that score? It’s really important to ask yourself this question. For a lot of guys, it’s because they didn’t go out enough. Or is it something different for you? Sometimes it’s really frustrating when you’re hitting a sticking point and you can’t seem to get past it. Whatever your reasons are, write them down.
3. What are your biggest accomplishments in 2010 since learning Love Systems?
Note every accomplishment you achieved after finding Love Systems. Perhaps it’s that you talked to more women that you ever had before. Maybe you had more dates and slept with more women. Whatever it is, write down all your accomplishments.
Now be proud of them. No seriously, I mean it. Read over that list and be happy about it. Your brain loves seeing positive results and it motivates you. For me, I had a hard time coming up with them when I first started with Love Systems. As soon I started to write them down (my first year I got more dates that I could handle) I started to realize how amazing my dating life actually was. Sometimes you don’t know what you have unless you are conscious of them.
4. What are the biggest lessons learned in 2010?
Sometimes when you’re out applying Love Systems, you’ll have an epiphany. What were those epiphanies for you? Write down those moments where the light bulb came on.
A lot of those came for me during the initial 2-3 minutes (I had to be more playful and teasing) and when I lost a girl along the way to my bedroom (“logistics”). The next day I’d think where I lost it and then it would hit me. The solution was then ingrained in my mind and the next time I wouldn’t lose the girl again in the same situation.
5. What are your current sticking points?
This is actually a question I ask myself every couple months, but I wanted to make sure you do this (at least) every year. If you have no idea what you’re current sticking points are, let me help you out here…
Can you consistently kiss a girl?
I really like this question because it involves a lot of moving parts:
- You need to have her be attracted to you
- She needs to be physically comfortable with you
- She is somewhere where her friends aren’t around (or else you get the kiss of death)
As you can see it involves all three tracks in the Love Systems Triad Model. If you answered a “no” to that question, what part of the Triad Model do you have to work on?
6. What are your immediate next steps to overcome those sticking points?
Now that you have identified what your sticking points are, setup a game plan to overcome them. To skyrocket your game, sometimes you have to approach it from a scientific angle. That means logging and tweaking each experiment. This is what I used to do:
- Writing down my field reports of what happened (in a private journal)
- Writing down how many approaches I did
- Writing down what went well that time?
- Writing down what went wrong? Where did I lose the girl?
- Writing down what I can do to prevent that from happening in the future?
I really hope this was useful to you. Trust me, do these exercises and, over time, it will really help take your game to the next level.
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