It has been a while since I last blogged. Last time must has been around mid-September. There was a server hiccup which lost all my blog files, drafts (so much awesome content gone forever), comments, and images. Fortunately I was able to restore all images back to normal (there were some pixelated images restored earlier) and also all the comments are back up. So it’s back to 99% to its old state.

I’m a schizophrenic when it comes to backing up. I backup every week religiously both through Mozy for cloud storage and through a local backup on an external backup. So if I ever lose my laptop or my data is gone, I’ll only lose a week of work. So through digging all these archives I’ve been able to make this blog like it was. So happy about that.

Reality is, it was a lot of work getting everything back up and also it kind of made me stop blogging for a bit. After some grinding it’s back up. So I’m ready again to release some awesome content for in 2011.

I have big plans for 2011 and I’ll definitely blog about them. Stay tuned.

On a superficial level, no girl is out of your league. Just because a girl is extremely beautiful, that doesn’t mean that you can’t get her. When it comes to dating, meaning over a longer period of time seeing each other, I would say there is some sort of “league.”

Generally people tend to date within their socio-economic status. There is research to back this up (google it if you want). Like it was said earlier, a super model will not date a burger-flipper at McDonalds. If a woman is used to dating wealthy men, guess what…she will end up dating MOST of the time a wealthy man.

Based on just the looks of a woman, you cannot tell what her socio-economic status is. I’ve dated hot girls who were really poor (typical in Los Angeles lol) and I’ve dated hot girls who were well off. You won’t know her lifestyle until you actually go out with her and date her for a bit. Whenever you first meet a girl and take her home the same day/night, socio-economic status plays no role at all. Once you two get more serious, then it does.

One girl I met was used to dating really wealthy men. When we started dating more, she started to complain to me how she was used to going on far trips, having a limo drive her everywhere, guys paying for gifts, etc. With my current income I couldn’t sustain her lifestyle so naturally we don’t date anymore. Last time I checked my Facebook, she is still living the glamor lifestyle she is so used too.

What is interesting is that we would sleep with each other once a while even though she was dating other guys. Why? Because these guys could play the “provider” for her while I could be the “sex-worthy” guy for her, but in the end it wasn’t good enough to keep her around. That’s the reality. I could have said that I was sick and tired of her BS, but the reality is she was used to having this extravagant lifestyle that I couldn’t offer her. I could offer her good sex, but not the lifestyle. And as we all know, relationships based on just sex don’t last forever.

On the other side, within social circle situations and situations where you have to take girls out on several dates, socio-economic status does play a bigger role because the woman can size you up over a longer period of time and see if you two are “compatible” that way.

If you meet a girl who is used to going on fancy and expensive dinner dates, you want to make sure your date gives off the same idea/vibe. Taking her to a college sports bar will make you lose points. That doesn’t mean your date has to be expensive too, but it will have to be a bit more classier.

So does money get women? Indirectly, yes. Money won’t get you women directly, but it gets you in the door. When it comes to dating hot girls, most of the time it’s about access. You need to be at places where they are. A lot. This is where money can be of great help, because it can buy you access to places. Most simplified example is bottle service. Some exclusive clubs require that you have bottle service or you won’t get in. Guess what….at those clubs are also the more desirable women. So yes, money does help INDIRECTLY getting hot girls. if you have the money to buy yourself access to places where hot women are, and you add Love Systems skills on top of that, you’ll be MONEY! :-)

There are always exceptions, but generally people do date within their socio-economic status. So learning Love Systems skills is one way to go to play a better league. If you can add a good career and an interesting lifestyle on top of that, you will live the life of a playboy.

My point is, no matter how beautiful the woman is and what your socio-economic status is, you can still get “that” girl. Even if you don’t make that much money, you can still pick up beautiful women with the right skills. Money becomes an issue when you and her are getting really serious, like in exchanging social circles and moving in together. Even then, if you two really love each other it shouldn’t be a huge obstacle.

One of my close friends isn’t making that much money. He just graduated college and is working a 9-5 office job, but he is dating a really beautiful and successful girl. I would date her myself if he didn’t meet her before me. She is a pretty successful CPA and makes way more money than my friend does, but she is still dating him despite their socio-economic difference. In fact, they are looking into moving in together soon.

Don’t let your annual income situation hold you back from approaching beautiful women. I used to be in that situation a couple years ago. I was a broke college student, drove a shitty car, but every week I would go out and meet the hottest girls I could find. I’ve dated beautiful girls even though I was broke. Like I said earlier, some girls even broke up with me because of my tight money situation. No big deal, because I know that there are many more girls out there just as beautiful as her. I’ve also met girls who didn’t make that big of a deal out it, and they are the majority.

Now of course you can improve your odds of consistently dating beautiful women if you become more successful yourself. I really fixed my own money situation. I started to work full-time, bought a nicer car, and made more money. For social circles, this was the perfect image to have (your image is really important in social circle game). For girls I was seriously dating for a bit, I could do more fun things with them. If you can expand your green zone then you’ll have a bigger probability of dating beautiful girls. Despite that, don’t let your money situation hold you back from approaching and dating extremely beautiful women.

So friday morning I woke up at 6am, got some breakfast and headed out to catch the train to the airport. The public transport system is really good in The Netherlands (currently where I’m vacationing), something that is non-existent in Los Angeles. Once I arrived in London, Jeremy picked me up from the train station. I stayed at his place for two nights. A couple hours after my arrival we would head to central London and grab some beers with Farmer It was my first time meeting Farmer and he is a really cool guy. Over some British beers we catched up on things and we did some daytime dating too.

Now London is generally not known for having a lot of beautiful women. After living in Los Angeles and numerous Las Vegas trips, my standards for beauty is set pretty high. Any other city I’ll be visiting really has to compete, although I still want to see Miami, Stockholm, Oslo, and Moscow before I make a final judgment which city has the most beautiful women. One thing I do know is that London will not be in top 10. Every city has its 1% women, but in London they were VERY rare.

When I was at the Spearmint Rhino in London a couple hours later (with Farmer & Mr M), I gave London another shot. They had some beautiful women there. It was my first time at a strip club in the UK, so I was curious how my Love Systems skills, especially stripper game, would be different. Turns out, it’s not that much different. I just did my thing like I normally do and met this half swedish/latvian girl with ease. So all my posts on stripper game are now officially UK approved too!

One thing I forgot to mention was that I finally got Soul to get into stripper game. I also got Farmer into it after we went to Spearmint Rhino. They both love it now. So I know already what’s going to happen at the Las Vegas Super Conference after hours….

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The next day I met up with Jeremy, 5.0, sheriff, and Farmer to have some coffee and tea. Damn British people. They really do drink too much coffee and tea. We talked some shit on each other, had deep philosophical debates, and exchanged some next level Love Systems material you can’t even get the upcoming Super Conference (video here) or the Advanced Playboy Mansion bootcamp.

We bounced to a restaurant to meet up with Mr M and his roommate (or “flat mate” as the British say). We shared some Thai food and talked a lot about some social circle game and business stuff. We later went to a big club in London and because we were so bored of talking to girls in old fashion, we decided to spice it up by doing Keys To The VIP alike missions. It was hilarious, from saying the stupidest lines we gave each other to getting possessions from girls within 10 seconds.

It was great seeing the London based instructors. Normally I only see them when they come to the Super Conference, but it was great to see them in their own city. I’ll be back there again for another round of fun (and debauchery).

Without further ado…..

This was a tough one. Tenmagnet is one of the OG and he needs someone who is more classy and sophisticated, which is a rare breed in the adult industry. Plus she needs to have some intelligence. Another rare bread. Fortunately, Kayden Kross fulfills all requirements.

Braddock is the All-American boy out of all instructors. Tall, handsome, from the country-side, drove a tractor and played sports in school. Since his move to Los Angeles all he has been chasing is Socal girls: blond, tan, and blue eyes. So native Southern California girl Britney Amber fits him perfectly.

This whiteboy has yellow fever. That’s it.

The man who claims that Moscow has the most beautiful women on the planet. With a history of dating Eastern European girls (and taming them) it’s no surprise Aletta Ocean is the pr0n star for The Don.

As long the girl is not Asian, we are good. I also know Mr M really likes blond girls that have that sex appeal look. This guys knows what sexy looks like and so do I. With the above picture of Jesse Jane, you might now understand why Mr M likes the “sexy look.”

Bad boy Cajun is a huge fan of rock n roll and the only adult actress who’s into that is Jenna Haze. Easy match.

Computer nerd and rave enthusiast Fader loves Latin heat, especially Colombian women (and I don’t blame him). I almost picked Esperanza Gomez since she is from Colombia, but since Fader has been trying to pick up and seduce Jenaveve Jolie on Twitter (LS_Fader) I figured she is the best pick.

Whenever Jeremy and I would do approaches on the street, we were usually going for the same women because we both like brunettes. For him though, he really likes brunettes with fair skin. If they are freaky in bed, even better! What better fit than Ms Freaky….Sasha Grey.

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Asa Akira looks like someone made a woman to the exact specifications of my libido. Not a hard choice, Bonsai, but a commendable one.

Like I said before in our car rides in between debauchery times….she has an alien face!

Which one would fit you most Mr.Bonsai ;)

I'm going to have to go with Jayden James. Although Aletta Ocean is a favorite too, but The Don already has her. You?

I'd give my left leg for Aletta Ocean haha. I can't decide between Julia Paes or Eva Angelina.

I'm a big fan of Jennifer White

Amen to her…although I'm sure Soul would like her too.

Can't go wrong with Eva!

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In case you haven’t heard about it, the #1 day game expert in the world Jeremy Soul is releasing his book Daytime Dating. It’s all about meeting, attracting, and seducing women in daytime environments. He really broke down the simple steps necessary to meet women in the day (“day game”). There are some differences between night game and day game.

Just because you might be really good at picking up girls in bars and clubs, does not mean you will be good at day game. A couple months ago Jeremy stayed at my place for a week and he was putting the finishing touches on it. What I really liked the most is the chapter on Conversational Mapping. This is a technique Jeremy Soul came up with it and basically what it does is that you will NEVER run out of things to say, but tailored for daytime environments.

If you can apply conversation mapping into your Love Systems skills, you will have absolutely no problem attracting women in coffee shops, malls, streets, and any place you find women in the daytime. I’m a living proof it. My day game used to be horrible till I started to hang out with Jeremy Soul. When he showed me conversation mapping, it blew my mind how powerful it is. That is just one of the chapters in Daytime Dating. There’s a sample chapter available to get a feel for what the book is like. Definitely check it out coming out August 5th.

As a little kid I always wanted to go to the Playboy Mansion. Growing up I used to watch a lot of TV and music videos that had clips of bunnies hopping around at the Playboy Mansion. I remember sitting in class talking with my friends how one day we are going to be at the legendary playground and get a playmate.

Fast forward a decade and a dream came true. I was lucky enough to join Nick Savoy and Future to cause some havoc at the most extravagant mansion I’ve ever been too. Nowhere else have I seen so many million dollar cars on a lawn and half naked women walking around. It was awesome just being there. But let me back track a bit again.

Savoy doesn’t really teach workshops anymore. He’s too busy with running the day to day business side of Love Systems but the only times he does teach is at the annual advanced bootcamp and Super Conference. However, for me this was the first time seeing Nick teach some advanced concepts of Love Systems. So I sat in front row and acted like a student by taking notes, asking questions, and vigorously listening what the big man had to say.

I know Savoy is a smart guy. I work with him every day. But this time I had the chance to see him in a different setting where he is teaching. Wow. This time he wasn’t holding back. Future, who is one of the veterans of Love Systems, was also taking notes. Yeah, it was that insightful, advanced, and awesome.

There was one section where Savoy taught very specific Love Systems techniques for Las Vegas. He taught one technique on how you use black jack to pull girls. This part alone was worth $$$!

After the seminar Future and I went back to Savoy’s pimp bachelor pad to get ready for the night. I was so psyched because I was going to lose my PB Mansion virginity. All three of us hop in the cab and off we went.

We get at the mansion and all I see is hot girls in skimpy outfits. I liked the start of the night already. Even though I was like a kid in a candy store, I was there to work. I take my job very serious and my focus was 100% on the students. Well…not true. 99% on students, 0.5% on looking at the women there and 0.5% figuring out how one of them is going to end up with me. Yes, there is a place for having decimal points in Love Systems (inside joke with Savoy and Future).

I worked with one guy in particular. He shared a similar background as me: studied finance, Asian, wants to date Caucasian girls (he had limiting beliefs on that), and is a cool person.

So he had the limiting belief that he couldn’t date Caucasian girls. He had success with Asian girls, but none with white girls. Sounds familiar? Yessssir. I used to have that limiting belief too.

When it comes to limiting beliefs, one part of destroying it is by seeing that it is not true. You can tell a person a belief might not be true, but it still won’t have that much of an effect. However, when that person can visually see that there is proof that contradicts that belief, he can slowly work on overcoming that limiting belief. That night I showed him that an average/ugly Asian guy, like myself, can pickup hot white girls. By him seeing me do it, I was slowly destroying his limiting belief.

Towards the end of the night every remaining student was talking to playmates and murdering the mansion. A fun part of the night was introducing Savoy to every hot blond girl I was talking to, because blond girls is like kryptonite to him. Savoy is in a monogamous relationship so he had to behave that night (he still did demos of course). I decided to have some fun with that. Sometimes I would approach a blond girl on purpose so I could introduce her to Savoy and sometimes he would give me that look of “Thanh, I hate you and love you at the same time…” Hahaha.

About half an hour before closing time Savoy points out this hot girl that he really likes. Of course she was blond. But since he had to behave that night, my inner Barney Stinson came out and I said “I accept the challenge!” Then right before closing time we left together.

Adventures at the Advanced Playboy Mansion Bootcamp is a post from Thanh Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

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A few weeks ago I did some training with a guy who wanted to work on his Love Systems skills and he wanted to learn how to pickup strippers. We did three days of training and he made a lot of progress and ever since our 1on1 he has been picking up strippers left and right. He recently recorded an audio testimonial for me and you can find it below.

If you are interested in working with me, don’t hesitate to contact me.

New Audio Review of My Training is a post from Thanh Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach