The Inner Game seminar ran by Braddock and Mr M has been really popular. It’s not very often available but every time it is available you should jump ship and take it. Braddock wrote a post on what his inner game seminar is about.

I remember when I took that seminar for the first time. This was back at the Los Angeles Super Conference in October 2008, more than a year ago. It was the first time they taught the seminar and 6 hours later….we still weren’t done. We had maybe finished 20% of the full seminar.

So I came back a couple months later with more new information presented. What I really respect about Braddock is that he continually keeps adding new information to his seminars. That’s why I was always coming back to his seminars whenever they were available. I’ve taken all of Braddock’s seminars (Inner Game, Social Circle Mastery, and Strippers & Hired Guns) each more than 3 times. Just because there is always new information and the teachings of the material keeps improving over time.

Another reason was that the Inner Game seminar is so packed with information that I couldn’t grasp it all the first time. I realized that my inner game was pretty weak and I needed to work on a lot of things.

The thing with inner game is that learning it is not like putting a band aid on a wound. It takes commitment, good habits, and time to get it fixed. Heck, I’m still working on it. There are always things you can improve about yourself. Looking back, I’ve gotten a lot more confident over the year knowing what I had to do.

If you don’t know what you need to work on, well guess what….you won’t get anything done. Having someone else reveal your blind spots is eye opening. I never realized I had certain limiting beliefs or chinks in my armor. Once I knew what I needed to work on, set my goals and action plan that is when my self confidence went up.

Just do not get lost with all the different things you want to achieve. You thought my goals for 2010 was a lot? Honestly I had to trim down a lot. Also, part of what I learned in the inner game seminar is setting goals and how that affects your confidence levels. That has helped a lot in achieving my goals in 2009 and as a result my confidence level went up.

Once a while I still go over my notes just to remind myself what I need to work on. Here are some things I learned, worked on, and overcame:

• Overcoming limiting beliefs (especially concerning my ethnic background)
• Fear of rejection (approach anxiety)
• What it means to be a man (masculinity)
• Setting boundaries (not being a push-over)
• Setting goals (build confidence over time)

If you ever get a chance to take the seminar, really take it. Read Braddock’s post on his inner game seminar to get familiar.

Braddock on Inner Game is a post from Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

Caution: This post is advanced. Most people will not understand this post upon first reading. I suggest you bookmark this post, read it in full, and read this again in a couple weeks to grasp the power of this content.

Every time I spent time around him, I am always amazed at the body of knowledge he has. Because he already had decent success with women before he discovered Love Systems and he hung around with naturals, he picked up a lot of nuances that he was able to break down. One of his philosophy he explained to me was that you are already perfect to someone. This is exactly what he said to me:

You have to realize that you are already fine the way you are and that there is only more room for growth. There are girls out there that like you for who you are right now. You are someone’s ten. You just haven’t found that person yet and it is your job as a man to find her.

This hit home hard with me.

That was part of the reason why I wrote my post on finding compatible women. This post is zooming in on the “green” girls I am talking about in that post and I recommend you read it before continuing with this post.

The belief is that you are already an attractive guy and you know that there are women out there that like for just who you are. Even if you are overweight, have bad skin, and you play World of Warcraft all day long; there are women who will like that about you.

The part of “there is only room for growth” is important. Even though you might be someone’s 10, you might not look at yourself that way. If you would rate yourself on a scale of 1-10, you might rate yourself a 5. Even at a 5, there are women who will like you for who you are and see you as a 10.

You are aware of the level where you are at and you are okay with that. Beware of it, but don’t feel insecure about it. Feel secure that you are aware of the level that you rate yourself 1-10.

Since you rated yourself lower than 10, you know there is room for growth. You have ambitions, goals you want to achieve, and plans you want to complete. That makes you normal. A year from now you might rate yourself a 7 and you can look back how you improved.

The women who liked you when you were a 5, might not like you when are now a 7. Or they might still like you. It depends on her but it doesn’t matter to you. You know there are now other women out there who like you being at 7 and possibly the women from the past.

A lot of women like you!

Now the second part is important. You have to be proactive about finding these girls that like you for who you are. In the dating world the men go after the women. I didn’t make the world, I just live in it. You cannot expect that women will come to you. Women can’t see you if you’re not moving. You have to do the approach and lead.

You can also look at it this way. You know you are fine the way you are. You know that there are women that like you for who you are. All you have to do is approach women and find out if they will like you for who you are. Put your best foot forward and see where it will take you. Be okay with women rejecting you because you know then that you were not her 10. Do enough approaches and you will find a girl that will like you.

Every time you get a “no”, you are getting a step closer to a girl who does see you as 10. That gives you drive. As my wing put it, “as men were are hunters and gatherers, it’s in our blood.”

You might wonder then “why would you want to learn game then? You can play just the numbers game.” The thing is, you are still playing the game. You thinking how to approach, that’s game. You approaching, that’s game. You smiling on the approach, that’s game. And so on. The game is never out of context.

Now I am not saying that by just having this belief that you will get amazing with women. I wrote about this earlier in how I believe I can get any girl. However, it is one philosophy that will improve your confidence, that will result in better success with women. Let me give you an example.

You have two guys, John and Mike, who are both equal to each other in every aspect. Both have the same belief of “I am fine the way I am and I am someone’s perfect person.” The only difference is that John sleeps with more women than Mike, even though they do the same amount of approaches.

Even though both men have the same belief, John gets more women than Mike. What is the point? This does not mean that there are more women who like John than they like Mike. No, John just has better game; he knows how to convey his personality better, how to escalate more efficiently, can pass tests better, and so on.

In other words, John has better “outer-game.” Even though you ingrain a new belief that will help you become more successful with women, you still need to translate that in the right behavior. That’s what bootcamps and 1on1 sessions will teach you (and the right mindsets). But the thing with beliefs and mindsets is that it takes a long period of time to stick. It’s not a band aid you just put on.

So how do you ingrain new beliefs? My buddy Daxx, another Love Systems instructor, recently wrote a post on getting new beliefs. It’s not an easy process. It is a process that you have to be conscious of and practice every single day, but it is really powerful.

Learning game is not about changing who you are. It’s about effectively communicating your personality and being able to seduce women. You are in control how many women will naturally like you for who you are. There are already women who like average Joe, but more women will like average Joe with game.

Just realizing that you are fine already but that you can always improve is really powerful. With more self-improvement, comes more options and power.

To summarize, Trent in Swingers said it best: “You are so money and you don’t even know it!”

If you are on the Love Systems Lounge, a private forum for Bootcamp Alumni, check out the post by Karea entitled “On The Numbers Game – Insights.” He broke down a very similar belief and has some great additional ideas with this belief.

Dahunter, another Love Systems instructor, recently wrote a piece on another belief that is very similar to this one. Check out his inner game belief.

Big Business wrote a great post on this idea about how you want to have an attitude that you can get every girl. Just because I believe that I’m the greatest guy on the planet and I deserve the most beautiful women, does not automatically result in me getting the 9s and 10s. However, like Big Business explains, with the right mindsets and beliefs it will show in your behavior and subcommunications that you are someone that women find attractive (pre-selection).

I Can Sleep with Any Girl is a post from Asian Dating Coach Bonsai