A lot of guys make a mistake that leads them having girls see them as boyfriends when the guy does not want that at all. This definitely happened to me multiple times but I have overcome this problem.

I am going to reveal the golden rule that every guy should know about friends with benefits relationships. If there is one thing you should know about friends with benefits, it is this rule:

Do not see the girl more than once a week and when you do see her it always ends in sex.

If you obey to this rule you will avoid a lot of drama and bad relationships. Trust me.

I actually learned this rule from the Relationship Management DVDs by Nick Savoy. When I first heard of this I finally figured out why all my fuck buddies started to see me as potential boyfriends.

Even though we both agreed that we would keep it casual, I would start to see her more than once a week. After a while the talk of “so what are we?” (define the relationship) would always come up and I just couldn’t figure out why this question came up every single time. Now I do. And you too.

The last part is also important. Every time you see her, it has to end in sex. You want to keep up the idea that you two like each other for the sex. Nothing more, nothing less. Break this rule and it’s the fast track to landing in boyfriend land.

So guys, if you want to keep your relationships really casual, follow this rule: Do not see the girl more than once a week and when you do see her it always ends in sex.

There are more nuggets in the Relationship Management DVDs but we also have an interview series on Friends with Benefits where Savoy and Braddock have even more tips for having casual relationships.

Have you had this problem before? I’m interested to hear how you guys got around this.

Golden Rule of Friends with Benefits Relationships is a post from Asian Dating Coach Bonsai

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