First I want you to understand how a social circle works. Imagine a social circle as a pyramid. See image below.

Every social circle has the “top dogs.” These are the guys that are the most popular (oftentimes also most outgoing or wealthy) and the women are the most attractive. That’s where you want to be and most of the time, women in the green area will only date the men in the green area.

There is also a bottom where these people are exactly the opposite of the top dogs. Not popular, most of them don’t know the top dogs very well, or are new to the social circle. This is not where you want to be.

Whenever you enter a new social circle, it would be best if you come in right in through the top. Majority of time, that is not going to happen. Most likely you will get somewhere in the middle or you get in at the bottom. That’s fine because you can always work your way up to the top. That might take awhile, but it is possible. (On a related note, always accept the first invite whenever you want to get into a social circle.)

The basic idea is, you always want to get as high in the social circle as possible. The higher you are, the more women will be attracted to you and the more women you will date in that social circle. Now that doesn’t mean you need to get to the green area of every social circle. There could be tons of beautiful women who are not the top dogs. That’s great as long you are higher up in the social circle than they are.

One of the attraction switches in Magic Bullets is status. Status in a social circle means that you are up high in the social circle. Or at least, she perceives you as higher up in the social circle than herself. That’s the basics of attraction: she perceives you as higher value than herself.

Now that you understand the basics of social circles, another concept I want you to understand is social proof. In short, if a group of people think you are awesome, others will assume you are awesome. I had a pickup where I explained how you can use social proof in day game to meet women. I suggest you read that first before you continue with the rest of the post.

You are also probably familiar with social proofing a venue. If not, read this post by Dubbsy, fellow Love Systems dating coach, on social proof as part of one-night stands. With social proof you can get a lot of women attracted to you. However, it gets limited to just one girl if you go for one-night stands. Even though you have all these women in the venue attracted to you, at the end of the night there is only one girl you can take home.

It works differently if that night you go for setting up dates. Since you have all that social proof built up and girls are attracted to you, you can just setup dates with a lot of girls. If you’re smart, you do that and then take one girl home that night. Win-win! You have setup a lot of dates and took a girl home. But that’s another worthy post.

Back to the point of this post. When you have social proofed a venue, then the venue is like a mini social circle where you are on top of of the social circle. However, at the end of the night that social circle disappears and so does your value.

You can apply the same idea of social proofing a venue to social circles where you work multiple women at the same time except that you can lock-in your value. Like I said earlier, with social proof in venues you will eventually lose all that value. However, in social circles, value gains are locked in because you will most likely see that person again. So if a girl in a social circle first meets you, she sees that you’re awesome because you have social proof, and then when you guys part ways, she will still think you’re awesome next time you guys see each other again.

That’s the great thing about social circles. You can slowly build your value over time and lock it in. So let’s say you come in at the bottom, you can work your way to the top like the diagram below shows.

Let’s say when you entered a social circle, you came in at the yellow bar. That means that all the women below that yellow bar, will be attracted to you (in simple terms). You can date these women. However, remember what I said earlier: the higher you are in the social circle, the more and hotter women will get attracted to you.

A couple months go by and you have befriended everyone in that social circle. As you get more well known and popular in the social circle, you climb up in that social circle. Now you might be at the purple bar. As you go up, more women will get attracted to you. Now you can date the women who are in the purple area AND the yellow area.

Now this is the main point of this post. As you build your value up in a social circle, all these women who find out about you will become attracted to you. With social circle game you can work multiple women at the same time. When you work on one or two girls as part of building social proof, other girls will eventually find out about you. So the effects of social proof is magnified and spread around like malaria in Africa. By just working on one person and with its positive perception it will be echoed to tons of people in the social circle.

Let’s say you are at the bottom of the social circle. At one party, people see you flirting with one of the top dog girls and she is all over you. Guess what? That’s going to have (massive) effect on all the other girls in the social circle.

Social proof in social circle is so much more powerful than in cold approach. That’s one of the reason I love social circle game. If you put in the effort and have patience, at some point you will date A LOT of women without much effort. The work in the beginning is hard but it will pay off once you become established in a social circle, because then you can pick the women YOU want to date.

I’m sure you still have questions left, like “how do I build social proof in a social circle”, “how do I enter the top of a social circle”, and so on. These are all gems taught at the Social Circle Mastery seminar (DVD is coming out this summer) that Braddock and Mr M came up with.

Definitely check out this video of Braddock where he talks about “buzz” (essentially social proof in social circle). He gives some tips and tricks there.

For more of his college game videos (that apply to social circle game too), check out the college game thread on TAF. He gives away a lot of tips there that will help you with your social circle game!

The point is, with social circle game you don’t have to worry about one girl. You can game multiple girls at the same time and reap the benefits later on.

Social Proof and Social Circle Game is a post from Thanh Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

A little update on what is going on with me. This blog hasn’t been updated for a period of time. For good reasons. I’ve been working really hard behind the scenes on getting things done to improve my overall quality of life.

As you could read in my post on goals for 2010 I have a lot of things I want to achieve. The overarching idea is to always improve my quality of life and part of that is improving and expanding your social circle. One tip I always advocate is to accept the first invitation to any event. You can even take it a step further and always say YES to everything like in the movie “Yes Man” with Jim Carrey. Well…that might be a little too much.

The last 2 weeks or so have been crazy. First I got in at a private Victoria Secret party where 3 VS angels were there. I had a chance to talk to Alessandra Ambrosio and Miranda Kerr, but not Candice Swanepoel. I didn’t recognize Candice since I didn’t know she was a VS Angel. I should have talked to her. Maybe another time. There were tons of other celebrities at the party, including guys from Entourage, MTV presenters, and A-list actors. My biggest surprise was when I saw Paris Hilton. In real life, she looks really hot. I grabbed my opportunity to talk to her for a little bit by going direct on her (pretending I didn’t know her) and have a few minutes of conversation before the entourage invaded. Below is a clip where you see me partying with her.

The next day I went to San Diego for one night to network with some people at a marketing conference. Daxx and Dubbsy were there too so it was good to hangout with them outside LA. I really like San Diego. Even though was there for maybe 20 hours, I had the chance to see the nightlife briefly and Saturday morning. Tons of beautiful girls and I got the vibe the city gave off. I’m definitely going back there for a weekend to see what else the city has to offer.

Right after the networking and presentations at the marketing conference I flew to Las Vegas to party with some friends that Saturday night. Jeremy Soul (I did my first vlog with him) and Jesse Starlight were in town too (they did a day game workshop that weekend). A personal friend of mine hooked us up at the new club Haze where we had the best table (near the dance floor and DJ). It was one of the best parties I’ve been to in my life. One of my friend’s friends, he flew in about 90 girls to party with us that night. Yeah…it was that crazy. 13+ bottles, many energy drinks, a playmate, and an exotic dancer later, that’s when the night ended and morning came for me. On the right is a picture with Starlight and some of the girls we partied with.

The good thing about those 3 epic days in a row? I recorded all three days on film! I’m in the middle editing it so it will be out soon. It will showcase you how awesome the three days were. This blog post cannot describe it. One thing these days made me realize is how important social circle game is. If you apply everything you learn from Social Circle Mastery (DVD coming out soon!) it will literally change your life for the better. That’s how I got in the Victoria Secret party, expanded my social circle with successful people, improve my own quality of life, and so much more.

The next weekend, which just passed as of writing, I was at a wedding with Jeremy Soul. One of Jeremy’s cousins got married. One of the reasons I wanted to go was because Jeremy’s cousin is Sri Lankan and she was marrying a Caucasian guy. In fact, the wedding has two ceremonies (one Hindu, one Christian) so it was great to see the different cultures. Also, because it was an interracial marriage, I wanted to talk to other people at the wedding about it. It was all to expand my own horizon and knowledge on interracial dating, which is something my blog is going to cover more in the near future.

That wraps up my last two weeks. It was fun, crazy, hectic, and eye opening. Just like how one should live every day. Now I’m getting back on the blogging track.

Partying with Paris Hilton and Victoria Secret Angels is a post from Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

Related posts:

1. 3 Reasons Why You Should Learn Social Circle Game
2. Social Proof and Social Circle Game

1. Marketing Jeremy Soul is a marketing genius. No doubt about it. He is one the best marketed person within Love Systems. That is one of the reasons why his day game workshops are always sold out.

A big part of it is also that Jeremy is good at networking. What I learned is that PR is a lot about networking with the right people. During the day I work at the Love Systems office where I am responsible for a lot of the marketing, but I still learned a lot from Jeremy on this area. After reading Crushit by Gary vaynerchuk and spending time with Jeremy I now understand a lot better what personal branding is. Over the course of this year I will be putting all these tips and tricks together to get myself more media exposure.

2. Day Game Even though I’ve been doing day game for a while now, I still learned a lot of things from Jeremy when it comes to day game. He’s the number 1 guy for day game and he is always evolving his own game. It’s a lot of subtle things that I learned, but my biggest breakthrough in day game is that now I’m fairly accurate at predicting which girls in the daytime are going to be receptive for an approach.

I remember about a year ago Soul telling me how he can spot girls that are going to be really easy to approach and close. Honestly, back then I thought he was just being delusional. Fast forward a year later, I now know exactly what he means. Now I can walk down a street and immediately see which girls are going to be easy to talk to with fair accuracy. It’s a weird skill to have.

Part of this is me having done many more daytime approaches over the course of a year, but also being around Jeremy more so I could pick up his subcommunications. A week earlier I had spent some time with him in San Francisco.

3. Social Circle Game Even though Jeremy might be best known for his day game, make no mistake he is also very savvy when it comes to networking, establishing relationships, and meeting the right people. In other words, social circle game.

He and I had long talks about this in our times in the car. Jeremy would give tons of examples of how he used social circle game to enrich his own life. Especially since he moved from London to Stockholm. I also shared some of my views and techniques on meeting the right people and establishing relationships.

He also shared a lot of things I never thought of or have even heard of. There are a lot of social circle game tricks that are not really widespread. The Social Circle Mastery seminar has tons of great material on building and extending social circles, but I even discovered many more tricks that are not covered in the seminar. So Soul and I were sharing a lot of these tips and tricks. I might post about these tips and tricks on this blog in the future.

Conclusion

So these are the things I learned from Jeremy Soul. Not only is the man great at what he is most known for, but he is very much a renaissance man. This year he is also leading Project Rockstar. If you haven’t applied yet, definitely check it out.

3 Things I Learned from Jeremy Soul is a post from Bonsai – Asian Dating Coach

I’m going to give you one tip for expanding your social circles. If you follow this rule, building a new social circle and joining new social circles will be MUCH easier and it will happen faster. It’s also easy to follow and easy to implement:

Whenever you get invited by someone for the first time, GO no matter what.

Write this down. I can’t stress enough how important this is.

Whenever someones invites you to come out, GO. Go no matter what. This is really important if you want to expand your social circles.

I’ve noticed that when someone invites you for the first time to some event and you don’t go, it’s very hard to meet up with that person again. You don’t always get a second chance. Especially when you don’t see that person much. In that case you are still stuck in the “sticky phase” (taught in Social Circle Mastery). In other words, you two are still somewhat strangers.

It is much easier to go on your first invite and then meetup with that person (who invited you) again in the future. You can go the first time, flake some other time, and then still meet up again with that person (especially if you have his/her phone number).

That person will appreciate it if you come out the first time. It strengthens your bond with him/her because you gain time and shared experiences which are valuable currencies in social circle game.

So go! Even if you can only stop by for 15 minutes. It is better than not showing up or rejecting the invite.

Braddock also wrote a cool post on golden rule for building a new social circle: respect first, popularity second.

Now you have two great nuggets. Put them to use and it will change your social life for the better.

Social circle game is the next level of game everyone should be playing. Some people call it Game 2.0; the next step for meeting and dating beautiful women. Most literature in the seduction community is about cold approach and there is very little coverage of social circle game. Th is i s slowly changing as more info on social circle game came out, e.g. the creation of the Social Circle Mastery (SCM) seminar by Braddock and Mr M.

SIDENOTE: For those who are not with familiar with social circle game; It’s the art of meeting and dating women through friends and people you know. That means that the girl you might be interested in, knows you through a friend of her’s or you two know similar people. There is a weak and/or extended relationship between you and the girl you might be interested in. It’s not a cold approach because you and her already have some affiliation with each other.

Social circle game has literally changed my life. First it was a bootcamp that opened up my eyes what is possible when it comes to meeting and dating beautiful women. Then it was social circle game that really gave me (and I’m still working on this) the lifestyle where I get access to a lot of quality women. There are a lot more benefits of mastering social circle game, but here are 3 reasons why you should learn social circle game.

1. You will get the hottest girls.

Cold approach can be brutal. If you want to get the hottest girls in the venue, you really have to be “ON” that night. If you are not, you will most likely not get one of them. The reality is, you will not be on top of your game every night you go out.

What I’m trying to say is that with social circle game you will get consistently more hot girls in your bed. One of the reasons is that in social circles you can “game” more than one girl at the same time and you can lock in your value/gains. Plus, once you sleep with the top-tier girls of your social circle it will make it much easier to sleep with the other hot girls in that social circle. In Social Circle Mastery this is called the waterfall principle.

Another thing is that a lot of women do not go out to night clubs or bars. Instead they might be at dinner parties or exclusive mansion parties. You need access to these places to get these types of women. So you need to know people that can get you in. Which brings up the next point.

2. You understand how friendships work.

How many people actually understand how making friends works and how social circles work? I would guess not that many. People just assume that “over time things just happen.” Understanding how the process of building friendships works is so important and a vital skill set to have because it gives you the ability to decide where you want to take the interaction with a person.

Do you want to make this girl your friend? Or do you want to sleep with her? Once you understand the differences between cold approach and social circle game, you can utilize the knowledge to your advantage.

Also, making friends and connections with other people is really important for business networking and enriching your life. That person might get you access to these exclusive dinner parties or house parties I was talking about earlier.

Every networking party or conference I’ve been to after taking SCM has been so beneficial. I knew exactly what to do to make someone a friend of mine and how get myself introduced to people I wanted to meet.

Once you understand how it works and you have the skill set, you never have to worry about having people around you. You could move to a new city and have new social life within just a couple weeks. You can meet the people you want to meet, whether these are bartenders, executives, hot girls, or gay friends ;)

3. You can get out of the friend zone and still get the girl.

A lot of you guys have this one girl that they are friends with and she is someone they would sleep with as soon they could. It’s just too bad she sees him as a friend and he has ruined all his chances of getting her. It’s impossible to escape the dreaded friend zone. Or is it?

No, you can escape the friend zone and get the girl. You just have to know how. There are two parts to this. The first step is getting out of the friend zone. Most guys think they should just wait for one night where you see an opportunity to sleep with her and then go for it. Or they think that after she dated all these assholes that she will finally realize that she needed this nice guy who was there all along.

NO. There are some problems with these viewpoints. When you are trying to get the girl in bed and you screw up, you will end up with more problems than you had before. Women don’t want to sleep with their guy friends they are not attracted to.

Second, that moment will never come where she is turning 180 and goes for you. There are calculated ways to escape the friend zone (field tested!) and keeping the girl around in your life. The best approach is to limit contact with her. My boy Daxx wrote a post on getting out of the friend zone if you want to know how to do it.

The second step is how you behave once you have escaped the friend zone. Now that you have escaped that black hole you have to know how to get the girl and not make the same mistake again.

The gist is that you have to show her that you are a new person and you’re not the old person she saw as a friend. She now has to see you as this sex-worthy guy so when you first meet her again, flirt and escalate more than you used to do. Let her know you’re interested in her and that you see her more than just a friend.

Conclusion

I could probably give you 10 more reasons why you should learn social circle game, but these three should be convincing enough. It really is the next step to meeting beautiful and high quality women. You think guys like Jeremy Piven meet women through cold approach? No, he gets girls introduced to him and he meets them through friends and acquaintances. We want to play the same kind of game and if you take Social Circle Mastery you know how to play it.

3 Reasons Why You Should Learn Social Circle Game is a post from Asian Dating Coach Bonsai